Since I’m in a mood now..
I am tentatively calling myself Dominant until I can figure out which end of the Top-Dom spectrum I fall into. But let me get one thing straight: this does not make me any more of a perfect feminist image than a submissive.
Being submissive does not make you any less of a feminist.
It does not invalidate your desire for equality in the world. It does not mean that because you give up your power to one or more men (or women. Or whoever really) that you give up that power to everyone and/or anyone. It does not automatically discredit your belief in equal rights and treatment.
So s/he orders you to make them a sandwich and service them after, like the butt-end of a kitchen joke? Cool. Because guess what? Feminism isn’t about always “saying no to men” or “being a man hater”, no matter what the common perception is. It’s about equality—and that means doing what you want, no matter how in or out of gender roles that may be. It’s about, as someone said, making your own choices. And if that choice is to be in a power exchange relationship, to be treated like a sex slave or a piece of furniture, or whatever it is you want, then that’s that. It has nothing and everything to do with being a feminist.
I get how being female Dominant can seem like it’s this pro-feminist thing, and god, how can a submissive say they’re a feminist when it feels like the opposite? But you know what? Sometimes I have the opposite worry. Sometimes I think to myself, “Man, I like to think I’m a feminist, but how can I, on the same blog, promote equality and then turn right around and post men in bondage kissing women’s feet?” I feel like I’m hypocritical sometimes, and I know I have lots to learn in the ways of feminism. …Lots to learn.
But for me, it’s the same thing. It’s about what I want and about what a potential partner(s) of mine will want consensually And it doesn’t make me any more or less of a feminist than my submissive friends.
So in the end, enjoy your life, whether in chains or holding the chains or heck without chains. The way I see it, feminism isn’t a cage, it’s a key, so don’t worry about your image or place. Make your own choices, free of pressure, (and don’t judge anyone based on their likewise choices). You’re great the way you are.